Writing Can Be Murder

July 27, 2009

Learning from disappointments

Filed under: Uncategorized — love2wryte @ 7:21 pm

Things are going really well right now. I’m having more successes than failures, but recently I’ve found myself wondering if the reason I’m being more successful at the moment is because of past disappointments.

I’m not one of those that believes that “every cloud has a silver lining”. I think that there are things that happen that just suck. They’re disappointing. They hurt. They make you feel like the entire world is conspiring against you.  At those times the only silver lining I can imagine finding in a cloud would be a lightning bolt that’s gonna fry me.

It takes time for me to step back and realize the lessons those disappointments might offer. And I’m a slow learner, so sometimes I have to repeat my failures multiple times before I ever internalize the lessons and change my behaviors.

What about you? Do you feel like you learn/grow more as a result of your successes or your failures?



  1. If every failure was a learning experience, I’d be a Rhodes Scholar.

    But aside from that, I’ve sort of taught myself over the years to look for silver linings. I believe they’re there, they’re not always bright shiny silver, but for a lot of things that seem like tough breaks, if you try hard enough you can see the “relatively good” side. Even if that side is just that the bad thing didn’t happen a day sooner or a day later and cause a cascade of more bad things.

    Comment by Jennifer Colgan — July 28, 2009 @ 12:06 am | Reply

  2. Which is why you’re a much better person than I am…

    Comment by love2wryte — July 28, 2009 @ 6:52 pm | Reply

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